I received the following message from a fellow shoe lover in my inbox a while ago:
Hello, I am wondering what type heels should I buy that are comfortable to my feet? I have wide and big feet with barely an arch please help me! I am not used to wearing heels by any means and i’m 33 and have never owned high heels. I’m 5’9 so I didn’t think that wearing heels would suit me but I have to gain a strong and fierce confidence that I have never had before for no one but me.
I am a divorced mother of two and i’m ready to become a new woman with a new love for myself and that means I have to develop a new attitude and embrace the fashion world…any suggestions on how I can do that on a budget would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for reading this and have a blessed day!
Dear Fellow Shoe Lover,
Thank you for sending me a message, you have made the first step in the right directions, by reaching out and asking for advice.
Of course, I don’t know your story, but I feel that I can relate to you. I was a single mom of two children for many years and had to learn to ‘walk in heels’ and regain my confidence as well. It’s only too easy to stay at home with the kids and wear comfy clothes and sneakers at all times.
The most important advice I can give you is not to get too caught up in the fashion itself, but try to find shoes and outfits that fit properly and make you feel good. I would start with a pair of shoes or booties (depending on the climate where you live) that have either a 2 or 3 inch wedge heel or sturdy block heel. They will give you a nice lift, strengthen your muscles and will still be comfortable. Start out slowly and wear your new heels for only a couple of hours at a time.
Shop around your local stores and try on different brands and styles. I have been able to find great bargains at second hands stores, shoes that still have the tags on them even. All of the big shoe shopping websites now offer free returns on their purchases, so you can take advantage of the pre-Holiday sales online as well. Just make sure you wear your new shoes around the house for a few hours to be sure they fit properly. After you wear them outside you can’t return them any more.
Once you’re comfortable in a lower heel you can gradually work your way up to a higher and thinner heel. Most shoe manufacturers now offer beautiful high heels in wide width and larger sizes, and adding a pair of insoles, foot pedals or arch support might help as well. I am 5′ 9″ myself and my favorite pair of shoes is a sexy, black 4 3/4″ stiletto heeled sandal. 😉
I am very proud of you for taking this first step on re-gaining your self confidence. You go girl!
Let me know if you have any other advice for this shoe lover with big feet. Please leave your comment below.